Communication with teenagers can sometimes be classified as challenging at best for many families. As a therapist who specializes in working with teenagers and their parents I am often time asked how to improve communication with their teen. Communicating with your child during this phase of their development requires a different skill set than was used for years 0-12. A big difference. This article will give you some “instead of this, try that” examples of different things to be mindful of when communicating with your teen, or anyone, for that matter. In next week’s article I will discuss how to develop and communicate empathy while setting clear goals and expectations.
Below are a list of things to consider and become self-aware of when talking with your teen and how these are impacting they way they are interacting with them during a conversation.
Communication With Teenagers: Things To Watch For As Parents
|Insults||States the issue|
|Criticizes||Notes the good and bad|
|Gets defensive||Calmly disagrees|
|Lectures||Keeps it short and straight|
|Looks away||Makes eye contact|
|Slouches||Sits up straight|
|Uses sarcasm||Talks in a normal tone|
|Goes silent||Says what he/she feels|
|Commands, orders||Asks nicely|
|Yells||Uses normal tone of voice|
|Swears||Uses empathic but respectful language|
|Throws tantrum/ loses temper||Cools It, counts to 10, takes a hike|
|Nags||Asks once or twice|
|Dredges up the past||Focuses on the present|
Sarah Houy, M.A. RYT
I specialize in a variety of areas including:
Christian CounselingI am also a Registered Yoga Teacher and teach regularly at my Littleton location.
I have two locations:
Littleton @ 8 W. Dry Creek Cir. #120 Littleton, CO 80120
DTC @ 7120 E. Orchard Rd. Ste 370 Centennial, CO 80111
I offer free 50 minute initial consultations and look forward to serving you and your family soon!