Myths About Therapy

Myths About Therapy

  1. I don’t need a therapist.  I’m smart enough to solve my own problems.  While for some people change can happen outside the context of a therapeutic environment others many need some additional assistance or coaching in order to achieve their goals.  To me therapy is very similar to athletics in some ways.  Some people are just born with natural talent and can go on to achieve their goals with little or no coaching.  However, for most people, even those exceptional athletes having a coach help them with their performance is important.  Coaches are specialized in their field of expertise.  Therapists are very much the same.  Therapists are experts in the field of emotions, interpersonal relationships and peak performance for overall wellness.
  2. Therapy is for crazy people.  To elaborate on the paragraph above, coaching isn’t for those who are weak and don’t know how to pay the game.  People who ask for coaching assistance are actually self-aware enough to know that they want to achieve their goals and will utilize any sort of tool possible to help them with this.  Therapy is no different.  Therapy is mind-body-spirit coaching for those individuals who are self-aware enough of their own limitations to know that in order to achieve their goals in life they are willing to spend time and get assistance from those who specialize in that field.
  3. All therapist want to talk about is my parents. While some problems lie in the places we have come from, which can include our parents, my practice is focused on locating and assessing the many possible sources of dysregulation in your life or relationship.  These include the following areas to take into consideration:
    • Biology: Looking at your biological makeup and some important functions of your body is a key component of the therapeutic process when you work with me.  She is trained in many body interventions including utilizing Yoga for Mental Health and Neurofeedback.  I believe that the body is hugely important in creating dysregulation in your life AND regulation in your life.
    • Psychological: Assessing the impact of emotions, narratives and past experiences and how they help or hurt you in your present life and in your future endeavors is very important to me.  I have several techniques to facilitate people living their best lives now including Eye-Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) and Internal Family Systems (IFS) interventions which have proven to help people live more beautifully in the present moment.   
    • Social: Nature vs. Nurture.  Is it our genes or is it our environment that shape us?  It is both.  Taking a look at the environment we live in including our families, our culture, our generation, job, our school, etc is vitally important to understanding key components of dysregulation and regulation in a system.
  4. Therapy is for complainers or weak people who can’t figure out their own problems.  As if I needed to have another example how therapy is similar to athletics, but I can’t resist.  The gym is no place for complainers.  Those individuals who make their way to the gym put in the hard hours to do the work and they are the ones who get to reap 100% of the benefit of their hard work.  Therapy is no different.  Therapy is freaking hard.  And its worth it because you get to reap 100% of the benefits of your hard work in here.  Talking about life being hard and challenging is part of this work, but people don’t get better by simply talking about how hard life is.  Those individuals who are brave enough and courageous enough to come in here and take the steps to empower their life are the ones who make the changes and experience the true freedom of being fully alive in their own skin.